5 Simple Secrets to Becoming the Best You

As a collegiate, professional, and now Olympic athlete I have learned a thing or two about myself as a softball player and a person. It may have taken me longer than others, but I was told by some wise coaches once, that everybody learns at their own rate. I am here to share with you 5 simple things that I have learned over the years and have implemented into my life. These 5 things might seem simple, but as we all know simple doesn’t always mean easy.

A little back story…

A few years ago, I had an absolute breakdown about everything happening in my life. My softball career and performance, my relationships, my daily routine, how I felt about myself…everything. I realized that it was all connected. I was struggling in every area, but I continued to make excuses for myself and ignored changing any of it.

Thankfully, I had a major epiphany. I got to the point where, honestly, I hated myself. I hated how I felt on the field as a softball player, off the field with my relationships, and how I looked at myself. I was so disappointed in myself. I felt stuck and lost.

Change needed to happen. I was 100% committed to change. I was 100% committed to ME and becoming the BEST me possible.

These 5 things below have led me to live a happier, more fulfilling life. These 5 things are not the magic answer, but I promise you if you stay committed to them, you will start to feel and see a difference in your life. I know I did.

1. Align your thoughts, words, and actions

Everything is connected. This also goes for what we think, what we listen to and talk about, and what we do. Align what you think about, what you talk about, and how you live with what you want your best self to be. 

For me, it’s simple. If something doesn’t align with the goal I have, I don’t engage with it. If something or someone doesn’t align with my mission or vision for what I want my life to be like and feel like, it’s not for me.

Remember, it is ALL connected.

2.  Do ONE thing every day you are proud of

I started being more aware of this because I wanted to make sure that my days were fulfilling. I wanted to go to bed at night feeling more at peace and feel like I made the day count. Whether it is something on your To-Do List, something new you tried, or just something you enjoyed doing, just become more aware of the things that make you happy and make you proud. One thing a day adds up, trust me!

3. Do not compare yourself to others

Don’t worry about what other people are doing or what you see on social media! Becoming the best you is about YOU. Stay committed to the process you have for yourself. The more committed you are and the more you focus on your positive steps forward, the less you will worry about other people. It becomes irrelevant because you start to feel joy and peace in the journey of becoming a better you.

4. Say YES to things outside your comfort zone

In order to live outside our comfort zone and challenge ourselves, we need to do things that might scare us. We need to try things that we normally wouldn’t. Say YES to more. Start small, we don’t want to overwhelm ourselves. But, pay attention to opportunities that come up that you would normally say no to. Next time the opportunity presents itself, say YES and just give whatever “it” is, a try.

5. Be active and nourish your body

This is something I am very passionate about. I have seen this make a huge difference in my physical and mental health. Being active and fueling our bodies properly gives us more energy, decreases our stress levels, and boosts our mood. Whether you prefer to lift weights, bike, walk or anything else, just be active in some way! For me, even on days I don’t do a workout as part of my lifting/cardio program, I will go on a bike ride or just stretch outside under the sun. It completely flips my mood!

Nourishing our body is so important, but I also realize how hard it can be. Wherever you are in your journey, a good place to start is eating more fruits, veggies, and drinking lots of water! Stay away from sugars and processed foods. Just start changing one meal a day. After a week maybe you change 2 meals. Again, it adds up!


Change is hard, but it is so worth it. Commit to a better you. One step at a time, one day at a time. The change you want to see will happen when you stay consistent with the commitment.

Trust me. You got this.

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