Focus on What You Can Control
These past 5 months or so have been difficult for a lot of us. The COVID-19 pandemic has brought all of us uncertainty, worry, loss, stress, and I’m sure a plethora of other emotions. We all have struggled in our own ways.
First of all, I want you to know that I empathize with you. I hear you, I feel you, and most importantly, I am WITH you. No matter our circumstances, we are here in this world, navigating through it together.
For me, our “Stand Beside Her Tour” was cancelled in March and shortly following that, the Olympics were postponed. A lot of emotions filled me. Many of those emotions still reside in me…uncertainty being the most prevalent. As Olympians, especially softball Olympians, this was our big moment. Softball hasn’t been in the Olympics since 2008. So you can only imagine how incredibly excited we were to be named to the 2020 OLYMPIC ROSTER and get softball back on that Olympic stage, representing the USA.
But, life had some other plans. Life was put on hold for a lot of us. I know it was put on hold for me. The last few months have been a complete shift, as I’m sure it has for many of you. So many things are out of our control. So many things are uncertain. So many things that were a part of our “normal” day, were taken away.
What I have learned during all of this is even though we don’t have control over anything that happens around us, we do have control over what is most important: We have control over OURSELVES. I have always known this, but once I began to learn this on a deeper level and really practice this, I began to feel more at peace. I began to let go of anything that didn’t align with how I wanted to live my life.
It became simple.
If it is out of my control, I focus my energy internally on the 3 things I know I can control:
Many of us focus on trying to change the situation, the person, and/or the outcome. I used to do the same thing. But, trying to change things that you simply can’t change, won’t work. More importantly, trying to change things that you can’t change starts to take a toll. Honestly, it becomes exhausting.
Think about it…
We know we don’t have control over what decisions other people are making, yet we still consume ourselves comparing what they are doing to what we are doing.
We know we don’t have control over how other people are feeling, yet we still let their mood dictate how we feel and act.
We know we don’t have control over the weather or traffic, yet we still get angry and stressed when it calls for plans to change.
I’m here to tell you, the sooner you can practice controlling what YOU have control over, instead of trying to control everything around you, the better you will be. The more peaceful you will feel and the more productive you will be in your life. I am far from being perfect and knowing all the keys to life, but I do know that fully committing to this has been one of the best things I have done for myself.
Becoming in control of my perspective, my attitude, and how I respond allowed me to feel more in control of every area of my life. It allowed me to better manage and understand my anxiety. It allowed me to let go of any worry, complaints, and negative information because it was so clear it didn’t align with the positive and productive life I wanted to live.
Of course, we are human and we will have moments where we still try to control things we aren’t able to. We will still have moments of negativity, worry, stress, etc., but the more we practice controlling our internal self, the more natural it will become.
HOW you can begin to control Your Perspective, Your Attitude, and Your Response:
Shift your lens to see things in a positive and productive way, no matter the situation.
You have the power to make things work FOR you, not against you.
Choose to live in gratitude and your attitude will always be a positive one.
“What you think, you become.” Choose to think positive.
Stop, take a breath, and choose the most productive way to respond.
DO: Communicate and create a solution
DON’T: Complain and cause a negative action.
I hope you can start to feel a sense of peace and clarity as you practice taking control of the things YOU CAN control. Let go of the things you cannot. And remember, we are all navigating through this life together.