Courage vs. Confidence
So often we are told to be confident in who we are. To be confident in ourselves and know that you are going to get the job done, whatever that might be. In sports, public speaking, your job, an interview, etc. we are told “Be confident, you can do it!” The more I started to think about this, the more questions I had about what confidence really was.
I began to think about people who are confident in their profession and what that looks like. I thought about why women have less self-confidence than men, in most cases. I thought about having confidence as an athlete or in your career vs. having confidence in your personal life. I began to read more about the subject of confidence and what people had to say about it.
Of course, everyone has their own opinions of the subject and has experienced their own interpretation of what confidence means to them. However, the more I read and thought about this, the more I gravitated toward the subject of courage instead of
Confidence is a feeling we get because of our successful end result. We gain confidence from achieving something, whether that is drawing from past successful experiences or succeeding at the present task. But, how do we achieve those successful moments in the first place? My belief is we do it through moments of courage. I strongly believe that if we focus more on having courage rather than the end result of having confidence, we will actually become more confident.
It’s like with anything; when we focus on the process rather than the result we will find more success and satisfaction in what we are doing. When we focus on the process, we allow ourselves to be more present with the task at hand. Even better, when we focus on having courage in the process, we allow ourselves to take risks, overcome fear, and live outside our comfort zones. That is the ULTIMATE way to gain confidence.
Courage: “to be brave and take a bold step forward even with the feeling of fear, worry, or doubt.”
Living in courage isn’t about making a bunch of big, bold moves all the time. Instead, living in courage is being bold in the small moments because those are what add up to feeling confident.
What I have learned (and am continuously learning) is that when we allow ourselves let go of what weighs us down, we can let courage take over. This is different for all of us, but for a lot of us it is letting go of the fear of failure. Living in courage allows us to face that fear head on. We don’t need to avoid the fear or practice getting rid of the fear, instead we need to put courage first and shift our focus to make courage the priority.
Like anything, this is easier said than done, but I promise when you start to make it a priority and keep courage at the forefront of everything you do, you will start to transform and gain self-confidence.